Forget-me-not.

I love this recent talk by President Dieter F Uchtdorf about five things to 'forget not'. It reminds us all about keeping life in perspective and how to be happy now.

(This talk is taken from lds.org with the full version available here)

“No matter how dark your days may seem, no matter how insignificant you may feel, no matter how overshadowed you think you may be, your Heavenly Father has not forgotten you. In fact, He loves you, with an infinite love.”

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Second Counselor in the First Presidency, gave this loving reminder during the General Relief Society Meeting on September 24, 2011.

Using the forget-me-not flower as a metaphor for his remarks, President Uchtdorf noted that although the flower is small in size, and easily unnoticed among larger flowers, it is still beautiful and vibrant.

President Uchtdorf tied the five petals of the forget-me-not flower to five things women should not forget.

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Forget not to be patient with yourself:

President Uchtdorf reminded women that everyone has strengths and weaknesses—that no one is perfect, even those who may seem so.

“God wants to help us eventually turn all of our weaknesses into strengths, but He knows that this is a long-term goal,” President Uchtdorf said. “It is OK that you are not quite there yet. Keep working on it but stop punishing yourself. “

“Dear sisters, many of you are endlessly compassionate and patient with the weaknesses of others,” he added. “Please remember also to be compassionate and patient with yourself.”

Forget not the difference between a good sacrifice and a foolish sacrifice:

President Uchtdorf defined an acceptable sacrifice as giving up “something good for something of far greater worth.”

“Dedicating some of our time to studying the scriptures or preparing to teach a lesson is a good sacrifice. Spending many hours stitching the title of the lesson into homemade potholders for each member of your class may not be.”

President Uchtdorf noted that every situation is different, and suggested asking, “Am I committing my time and energies to the things that matter most?” in order to distinguish between good and foolish sacrifices.

Forget not to be happy now:

Using an example from the book Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, President Uchtdorf described how one of the characters, Willy Wonka, hid golden tickets within chocolate bars, promising to reveal wonders to five people who discovered the tickets.

“In their anxiousness, people began to forget the simple joy they used to find in a candy bar. The candy bar itself becomes an utter disappointment if it does not contain a golden ticket,” President Uchtdorf said. Whatever a “golden ticket” may represent to each person, President Uchtdorf warned Relief Society sisters to not put their happiness on hold as they wait for a future event, or golden ticket, to appear.

“The lesson here,” he said,” is that if we spend our days waiting for fabulous roses, we could miss the beauty and wonder of the tiny forget-me-nots that are all around us.”

Forget not the “why” of the gospel:

President Uchtdorf said that sometimes, in the routines of daily life, the vital aspects of the gospel of Jesus Christ are unintentionally overlooked. “We sometimes see the gospel as a long list of tasks that we must add to our already impossibly long “to do” lists. We focus on what the Lord wants us to do and how we might do it, but we sometimes forget why.”

President Uchtdorf reminded the sisters that the gospel is not an obligation, but a pathway leading to happiness and peace in this life and “glory and inexpressible fulfillment” in the life to come.

Forget not that the Lord loves you:

In closing, President Uchtdorf said, “Just think of it: You are known and remembered by the most majestic, powerful, and glorious being in the universe! You are loved by the King of infinite space and everlasting time.”

“You may at times feel a little like the forget-me-not—insignificant, small, or tiny in comparison with others,” he said, noting: “I hope (the forget-me-not) will be a symbol of the little things that make your lives joyful and sweet.”

The silver screen.

As a great fan of reading, I have mixed feelings when a beloved, treasured book becomes a film. I get all excited in the hopes that the film will be just as amazing as the book but then I get all disappointed when I feel the actors are miscast or that the film hasn't stayed true to the book - because really, the people most interested in watching the film are the ones who have actually read the novel. This boggles my mind about film producers, it really does.

Anyway, you will be happy to know that I have been pleasantly surprised, infact I was overjoyed when I went to see Jane Eyre at the cinema recently as it was absolutely brilliant (many of you might realise this is one of my favourite books ever, I even dared to say it was my favourite book of all time when I finished reading it...which for me is a huge thing). Excellently cast, beautifully filmed. Words cannot describe how much I loved it. So, to all those who might be reading; if you are a fan of period dramas/literary classics becoming motion pictures then I highly recommend this film.

A few more films on my 'watchlist' are Sherlock Holmes 2 and The Three Musketeers. I loved the first Sherlock Holmes with all the witty, fast-talking banter between Holmes and Watson and can't wait for more of it. The Three Musketeers, well...it has Orlando Bloom in it....and that dude who played Mr Darcy in the Pride and Prejudice with Kiera Knightley (which will never replace the BBC Pride and Prejudice which lives deep inside my heart). Yes, it doesn't look too serious and the wig on one of the boys looks pretty atrocious, but who can say "no" to swashbuckling, family-fun action!? Not me!

Tasty tantrums.

Ahh, cooking, that love-hate relationship.
I enjoy cooking and think I'm actually pretty good at it...but then these happy thoughts are often overcome with feelings of hate and loathing for the kitchen.
Between 3pm and 5pm every day, the kitchen and I have a little fight. I always win, but sometimes there are tears and tantrums when I accuse the kitchen of putting roadblocks in my way to cooking perfect meals. However, there have been no major accidents apart from a slightly burnt finger.

It gives me a sort of excitement and buzz to think that I am the creator of nice dinners and I have started to read cookery books just for fun. I always used to enjoy looking up sweet recipes like cakes and cookies, but now I find myself being drawn to dishes that require other ingredients than just flour, sugar and eggs. As a student, I don't want to be making meals that have obscure or expensive ingredients all the time...so I have turned to student cookbooks to help me in becoming a better cook, but without the high price tag. Here is my review of a few of them (and I feel like I can give them a better review then parents buying them for their children off of Amazon):

1. The student cookbook

First off, the pictures in this book of the 'students' is not believable. Late 20/30 year olds in a huge stainless steel kitchen look more like a group of young professionals than actual university students. I think this is where the book should be renamed and remarketed...not as a student cookbook but as a cookbook for young professionals as it is much better aimed at this market. The book isn't always student friendly with recipes using ingredients that wouldn't be found in most students' kitchen or that would be unneccessary purchases just to make the dishes like grilled peaches with pistachios and dates and moussaka-filled aubergines with lamb. However, the book does have a lot of variety with simpler dishes like lemon chicken and toad-in-the-hole so even though I feel like it was written by people who obviously are not students, it does provide a range of recipes that appeals to a wide audience, as there are simpler recipes mixed in with complex unheard of dishes. So you can progress through the book as you become braver in the kitchen!

2. Cooking up a storm

This book is aimed at teenagers and is set out in a very bright, bold way. I got this book when I was a teenager and think that it is perfect in transitioning you into the world of cooking and feeling like you can actually do something useful in the kitchen. I think it's even transitional into using as a student cookbook. Yes, it doesn't look professional at all, but the young teenage boy who wrote the book explains everything clearly and even gives easy cheats to making dishes more quickly - like using jars of lasagne sauce rather than making it all yourself, which would appeal to students! With a lot of non-fuss recipes, I really like this book - 6 years on from when I first got it!

3. From pasta to pancakes - the ultimate student cookbook

This is my favourite student cookbook. I think it's perfect! It contains lots of recipes verging on the easy-peasy like how to cook a jacket potato, make scrambled egg and make a hot chocolate to more impressive dishes like thai green curry and prawn and coconut stirfry. The author made most of these recipes whilst as a student at Newcastle University and so knows first hand what students want to eat and what they have in their cupboards. All her recipes are simple to do as they are well explained and she even lets you know things like how long you can keep leftovers in your fridge for and whether it is safe or not to reheat dishes. Definitely a keeper!

The 5 types

I work as a part-time sales assistant in a department store and as an avid people-watcher this seems to suit me quite nicely as I just stare at everybody going past or visiting my little concession.
For the past year I have watched in particular the men coming shopping with their wives/girlfriends and have devised that there are 5 types:

1. The Ghost
This man just glides behind his wife/girlfriend while she is shopping without saying anything or making any sort of conversation with her. Only his presence is felt. He is not interested or disinterested with what the wife/girlfriend is looking at, and gives that vacant expression look that he would much rather be at home playing on his XBOX. He can sometimes be found to just wander behind the woman on his mobile phone.

2. The Enthusiast
This type of man is more excited than his wife/girlfriend about shopping. As they walk past rails of clothes he will pick out things that he thinks she would like (a.k.a things he secretly likes and wants her to wear) and make comments about their flattering shape and colour. He thinks he is the next Gok Wan and that he alone can dress his wife/girlfriend in the most stylish attire. He is the type of man who makes his wife come out of the changing room to model her look and then remarks openly on whether he likes or dislikes her outfit!

3. The Hopeless Romantic
This type of man is my favourite to people watch as it is so cute! This man will walk hand-in-hand with the girl to any shops she wants to look at. He looks interested in what she picks out and carries her shopping. When she goes into the fitting rooms he just waits patiently outside and will say "that looks lovely" if she decides to model her outfit. When they get to the counter to pay for the purchases he sneakily pays for whatever she wants and gives her a little smile which totally means he loves her!

(This type of man should not be confused with a man who is forced into carrying the girl's shopping, paying for all her clothes etc. That man is a push-over. The type of man I'm describing is one who treats his girl to these sort of things just to make her feel special).

4. The Moaner
This type of man just moans and whines throughout the entire shopping experience. He moans about spending money, about looking at clothes, about the price of clothes, about how long his lady spent in the changing room, about how it is a complete waste of time and about how she already has enough clothes at home. He will hassle his wife to leave the shop and try and rally the sales assistants to be on his side by trying to come off as a bit of a joker. This is not the man who want to go shopping with.

5. The Drowning Man
This man is out of his depth as soon as he walks into a clothing store. He has the expression of a deer caught in headlights and seems awkwardly out of place the entire time. Yet, there is something so lovable about this man as it is clear that he does not like shopping and does not feel 100% comfortable but he will go into these clothing shops because of the love he has for his girl. He will even try and compliment her when she is trying on clothes and even though it is an awkward, mumbled reply, it is sincere. He will try to make her shopping trip as nice as possible and will never complain that he has had enough or he wants to leave.

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There you have it! My 5 types of men who accompany their wives/girlfriends shopping. This data has been collected over a large period of people-watching time and is both accurate and educational. Where do you think your man falls in this category? I had a think about this and think my fiancé is the drowning man. I think a lot of men probably fall into that category as they are not shopping fans!

Five a day

Today on my lunch break I got a meal deal from Boots. (As a side note, it is disappointing that they have raised their meal deal prices...yes it is only by 30p but £2.99 looked so much more justifiable than £3.29. Psychological pricing and all!) Anyway, I got the free July/August Boots magazine to keep me company on my lunch break and in the magazine I read this interesting fact: 5,000 lives could be saved in the UK every year if people just ate their five portions of fruit or veg a day. When I first read this I thought (1) I am definitely going to try and be better at eating fruit because I don't want to die young. (2) This is a very sweeping statistic, who even made up these figures? Oh, the British Heart Foundation and Oxford University? That makes it more plausible, and that it was researched on 15 December 2010. (3) I will have to further research this when I get home.

I've found that it was a bit of a sweeping statement to make as the research done was on a computer model which had dietary impacts placed upon it in relation to diseases to see whether factors such as eating more healthy, exercising, reducing salt intake and not smoking contributed to whether people would get a disease or die. Because this research was just done using a model it involved 'a considerable degree of estimation of the effect that an intervention (in this case dietary change) will have on the overall level of disease in a population.' (source)

I feel somewhat disappointed that the interesting fact that shocked me proved to not be as interesting as I thought. Yes, the research done by BHF and Oxford University is very intricate and with good intentions but it just seems to be something that people should already understand, as surely they know that by living a healthier lifestyle they are going to increase their chances at living for longer? 'Overall, this study supports current dietary recommendations and even though it cannot predict how diet influences risk for individuals, it does indicate that keeping to dietary recommendations reduces the risk of disease.'(source)


However, this interesting fact did not stop me from eating a satsuma when I got home and feel mighty proud of myself that I had just somehow decreased my chances of dying young. One of the things that emerged from the study was probably that eating five portions of fruit and veg a day is actually fairly important to our wellbeing. I know that I am probably one of the worse eaters of fruit (not veg though, I love my veg!) and do need to improve on this. This seems to be a problem nationally though as 'Our statistics show that only around a third of UK adults consume the recommended amount of fruit and veg each day.' (source)

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